Autism in Girls: Spotting the Signs Behind the Mask
Autistic girls are often misunderstood – and too often, they go undiagnosed. While boys are more frequently identified, research shows that girls are just as likely to be autistic. The difference? Girls often mask their traits, leading to late or missed diagnoses and missed support.
Understanding how autism presents differently in girls is essential for early intervention. With awareness, empathy and timely action, we can help girls get the support they need to thrive.
What Does Autism Look Like in Girls?
While autistic boys might show more overt behaviour, autism can present differently in girls. Girls are often more socially observant and may quietly copy others to fit in. Because they don’t always match traditional stereotypes, their struggles can go unnoticed. Many are misdiagnosed with anxiety, depression or ADHD long before autism is even considered.
What Is Masking – and Why Is It Common in Girls?
Masking is when autistic individuals consciously or unconsciously hide their traits to blend in. For girls, the pressure to “fit in” socially can make masking particularly common.
Masking might include:
- Mimicking facial expressions or body language
- Rehearsing conversations
- Forcing eye contact
- Copying behaviours they see in others
While this can help them seem socially successful, masking is mentally exhausting – and unsustainable long term.
Signs That Might Be Missed
A child who seems “fine” at school may come home overwhelmed, anxious or prone to meltdowns. Underneath the surface, she may feel chronically misunderstood or isolated.
Possible signs of autism in girls may include:
- Social and communication difficulties
- Rigid or repetitive behaviours
- Difficulty with sleep, or staying up late
- A strong sense of right and wrong
- Struggles with friendship dynamics
- Food selectivity or a very restricted diet
If your daughter consistently shows these signs – especially if they impact her wellbeing – consider seeking an autism assessment from a professional familiar with how autism presents in girls.
How Parents Can Advocate for Their Daughters
As a parent, your insight is invaluable. You may notice patterns and behaviours others miss – and your voice can make a big difference in securing support.
• Trust your instincts – if something doesn’t feel right, it’s worth exploring.
• Talk to school – share your observations and any concerns. If you suspect your daughter is masking, bring it up.
• Start the conversation – open and honest dialogue can help teachers and professionals better understand your daughter’s needs.
Hear from the Experts
In our special two-part Autism Unpacked podcast, we focus on autism in girls – what makes it harder to identify, and how to better support those who are often overlooked.
You’ll hear insights from:
- Professor Francesca Happé, cognitive neuroscientist
- Dr Freya Spicer-White, consultant clinical psychologist
Together, they explore not only the challenges autistic girls face, but also the many strengths and positives that often go unnoticed.
🎧 Listen now: www.optionsautism.co.uk/autism-unpacked-podcast
Every Girl Deserves to Be Seen
Understanding and supporting autistic girls means looking beyond the surface. With empathy and awareness, we can break down stereotypes, spot the signs early, and help more girls flourish – showing the world their incredible strengths and unique perspectives.